Hey, beautiful, 💮
Let’s talk about something that used to keep me in a loop I couldn’t escape: willpower.
For years, I thought if I just had more of it, I’d finally get where I wanted to be—stronger, lighter, more consistent. But what if I told you that willpower was never the real problem?
You’re Not Failing—You’re Just Wired for Survival
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve started the week saying, “This is it. I’m sticking to the plan.” And then… life happens. The hormones hit. The exhaustion creeps in. And I’m suddenly standing in the kitchen, mindlessly snacking and wondering, “What happened to my discipline?”
But here’s the thing I’ve learned—the hard way—and now share with my clients:
Your brain isn’t broken. Your willpower isn’t weak. You’re not sabotaging yourself on purpose.
You’re surviving the only way your nervous system knows how.
Your Brain Wants to Protect You (Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It)
Here’s what’s really happening behind the scenes: your brain sees stress, overwhelm, or uncertainty… and it jumps into protective mode. It’s not trying to ruin your progress…it’s trying to keep you safe.
The tricky part? That safety often shows up as habits we don’t want:
👉 Emotional eating
👉 Avoiding our needs
👉 Beating ourselves up for not “doing better”
And when you’re juggling midlife, menopause, relationships, and all the things, your willpower runs out faster than a phone with too many apps open.
What Finally Changed for Me
I had to let go of the shame. I had to stop saying, “I should try harder.” And I had to learn a new way of relating to myself—one rooted in compassion, not control.
One of the most powerful shifts I made? I started asking myself, “What would my future self want right now?”
Not what my critic wanted. Not what the scale demanded. But what the calm, wise version of me—the one who already feels peaceful in her body—would choose.
That single question changed everything.
This Is the Work I Do Now
I help midlife women drop the weight that’s really holding them back—not just on the scale, but the mental load, the judgment, and the noise.
And I created something to help you begin that shift: 📝 The Path to a Better You—a free guide to reflect, reset, and start reconnecting with the woman you’re becoming.
It’s not about being perfect. It’s not about forcing yourself into another plan. It’s about starting from a place of self-trust.
You deserve that.
Let’s Stop Starting Over
If this hits home for you, I want you to know you’re craving a gentler way to approach midlife weight loss, and I’d love to walk beside you. Let’s explore what support could look like—your next step doesn’t have to be big, just honest. 💛
➡️ You can always reach out directly or explore more at www.lorrilynncoaching.com
With love, Lorri-Lynn 💛
